a bit of a backgrounder…

months before our wedding, we were instructed to “un-godparent” one person I already somewhat asked to be so and was by common practice sort of like expected to have been designated as one.  it was wrong and unfair for me; but they were insistent and did not budge with their mandate.

since i am affected daily with the sticky situation, i told Kris that we should settle the matter immediately and personally declare the un-godparent-hood words.  very embarrassing and quite unordinary.  but still, we heeded them and their order was done (during my birthday pa).  as courtesy, we still invited said un-godparent-ed to the wedding and/or to visit the province some other time.

of course I was very upset; yet, still they did not even acknowledge the ’sacrifice’ I did.  Instead, I was just told that if I really want the person to be a godparent, then still make the person one but do not let said godparent sign on the marriage contract.  too shocked to reply; my friends and family who heard said statement were just as dumbfounded as well.

but that was over and done with.

fast forward to the present.

our “un-godparent” took on our courtesy invite to visit the province.

***panic sirens went off in berby’s world***

and so, we asked for their facilities to entertain our “un-godparent.”  knowing how they are, I constantly reminded Kris to re-ask/make sure of the facilities-reservation.  and personally, I even made sure of the matter.  all set then.  did an ocular to see the facilities myself as I haven’t ever been invited to spend a day there.  saw what are lacking and prepared to bring them the next time I get a chance to visit.

all these, but still I am uber stressed.  when the visit is over lang ako makakahinga ‘coz from experience, I know their word cannot really be trusted — many times nagbabago sila ng plano and iniwan kami sa ere to handle and expend for the racket their inconsideration created.

a week ago, Kris was told by their caretaker that the facilities will be occupied by other guests the same period our “un-godparent” was scheduled to go.  then, nasty calls and sms came asking how come we never made paalam that “Ria’s family” will use the facilities.

I am writing this blog to put on record three things:

1. Hindi ako nag-presenta ipagamit the facilities to “un-godparent;”  if the latter took on our casual invite, i firmly believe we are not entirely at fault…what can we do in the embarrassing situation months back — “un-godparent” the person, period, and just leave?  mygawd.  buti sana if kung sino lang siya and my neck is not on the line eh.

2. No, not “Ria’s Family.”  Again, I reiterate our track record, when my family and relatives went to the province before and during the wedding, they all stayed in hotels and resorts, and brought their own vehicles/rented vans for their use.  Since my family and relatives weren’t even invited to their provincial house during the wedding weekend, even just for show of courtesy, who can honestly believe that I would even ask them for the use of their facilities for my family?

3. Pinagpaalam itong event ni Kris 3x; and me, 2x! Omg, how many times should we have done so?!

Kris said the “misunderstandings” are already ironed out. I surely hope so as it would be embarrassment part 2, and sama-ng-loob for the –nth time for me.  Oh well, just the same, Kris prepared a back-up plan ‘coz  by now we learned our lessons well.

haynako, sabi na nga ba eh…