With Kris having been elected as a provincial board member in Ilocos recently, a number of people congratulated/teased me for consequently becoming a “First Lady” as well.  They reminded/warned me that I should be prepared na.  Then, they started humming the tune of the Wedding March, implying the next step is for us to get married soon.

First, I want it to be known that I don’t like being called “First Lady.” I am me, Ria, not just the new “First Lady of Bokal Kris” or “Kris’ girlfriend.” I am already overshadowed by Kris’ successes and many roles; so I want to at least maintain my identity apart from him; thus, if titles are that important in the province, then sige, I’d feel better if they’d just add na nga lang the prefix “Atty” to my name.

Second, I throw back the question, how do you prepare to kiss-ass the higher ups and other politicians; to return the ‘plasticity’ of the so-called political friends (ooohhh, they can be pretty nasty polymers!); to act like most of the ilocos-politician-spouses I’ve become acquainted with — nose up in the air and/or act like decors; for more financial burden? Buti sana if I’ve got the luxury of time and a family who’d watch my back while I try to immerse myself in being in Ilocos alongside Kris.  Buti rin sana if the higher ups are encouraging, supportive, and appreciative of me doing things for them (***private matter). 

When I gripe this way, other people always counter that should have known Kris was “destined” where he is right now and where he is expected to be in the future. 

Yes, I know. You’ve been privy to some of my sacrifices, adjustments, and even excitement for his political career.

Then they add, start pa lang ito.     

Yes, I know.  However, truth be told, I don’t really know how life will really be now that we have the Ilocos factor. Moreover, with my accustomed way of doing things; my independence; my being too honest, emotional, and firm in my beliefs; my being a worrywart about finances and security….how could I possibly fit the opposite Axxxx-mold?  Then, for the longest time, I’ve been used to having my boyfriend/best friend nearby for companionship, assistance, and support. Now, I gotta bear the semi-‘abandonment,’ as well as the more-frequent-than-the-past-years lengthy travel to and fro ilocos.

Get by and adjust appropriately na lang…FIGHT!

Oh, as for the “tandandanan…”  Well, we’re so totally broke for that right now.  Yes, RRA and friends ‘carried’ Kris through the campaign/elections 2007; but of course, personal funds were also used for the unexpected solicitations and expenditures.  Hayayayay J! 

Buti na lang talaga pumasa na ko J…para may forever personal glimmer of happiness to (hopefully) carry me through this new chapter of our lives J